On Balance – Beauty

Are you living Beauty?

What I am going to tell will change your life, so listen carefully.

Living in the western society it is imprinted on us since childhood, that beauty counts. Being beautiful, particularly for a woman, can earns more credit in life, help advance faster, and depending on the quality of your beauty, can become your asset. Growing up, girls want to be princesses, cover girls, fashionistas, only to discover that the other one gets the award. How sad! But, IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY.

Consider this.

Beauty is not on your face, beauty is in your being. Not your body, not your legs, not your lips, not even your soul, but is in your actions, in your behavior.

What you do to be you, how you live you truth can make you beautiful beyond belief. But, not every

When I was growing up my mother told me, “You are a nice girl, and you have to behave like one.” I had no idea what nice girls do, so that I could want to become one. But over time, in a few years, I grew to believe that I wanted to be as nice a girl as I wanted to be beautiful.

I grew up in Russia. In my time, beauty was highly rated and openly appreciated. Women had to be beautiful. And in Moscow, there was an unspoken rule that women would take the garbage out without make-up, some even dressed up to look good. Ridiculous? Not at all. If the society standard calls for beauty, women are there to respond.

My mother’s usual remark was, “Are you going out looking like this?” Which inevitably made me feel as if I did something wrong. Growing up running this program in the background, thinking that I have done things wrong. What do you think arises from such thinking?

That’s right, the identity crisis. I am never doing things right, I am not good enough.

22 years ago I arrived in the US convinced that woman here put just as much effort in looking beautiful as they are in Russia. To my disappointment it was not so. I began to recognize that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, and beauty can be natural and enhanced, and beauty and youthfulness are powerful motivators through advertisement and celebrities.

And all the  while, recognizing that beauty is most powerful when you are in balance. Otherwise, the outwardly beauty is empty, soulless.

In my early 30s I began to be interested in finding balance, in search of prolonging youthfulness and beauty of my body and mind. And here is what I discovered.

We all are beautiful in our magnificence and uniqueness. But the majority of us have no idea what this even means. Because it comes with a secret. For it to be true, you have to learn it, live it, breathe it in and out every moment of your life.

Unfortunately, the majority of people do not know it. They are taught to spend their time trying to fit in. Unsurprisingly, it is an easier way to survive. Because, when you wear the clothes that others lay out for you to wear, when you do what they tell you, when you learn to live your life doing steps you learned in school, from your parents, from your peers, you grow to believe in the beliefs of others as if they are yours. We learn to identify with labels that are placed on us, with the expectations that are imposed on us. To live to the expectations of others is an incredibly difficult and unfulfilling path.

Instead, let me tell you what I found to be true. When I came here to the US, I tried desperately to fit in. But I could not, and I could not get it why I could not. I had all that I needed, good education, a Ph.D. and an MBA a few years later. Instilled in me belief to work hard for all that I have. I worked 14 hours each day, I reached the top, and had become what I wanted – a decision-making executive on Wall Street.

And the silent question present everywhere, the question that was there from the start and only grew louder and more persistent throughout the years soon became even more apparent:

Am I doing the right thing, and ultimately, am I good enough?

The inner longing, the dissatisfaction with myself, the inner crisis grew stronger and more obvious. I was at the top of my ladder of success, and I was not happy.

I spend years struggling with myself, my body weight skyrocketed, I put on sizes to about 8 sizes bigger from where I am right now.

I felt desperate.

Once I received a package from catalogue sales, and I was standing in front of the mirror trying on a new pair of pants that I ordered, because I was so busy and so embarassingly fat to go shopping in person.  As soon as I saw what those loose fitting ugly pants did to my image, (accentuating the belly making me look pregnant, and I wasn’t even in the relationship!) I stood there staring at my image in the mirror in horror.

I made a decision.

I knew something had to change. But what? I was successful and recognized that I could not just walk away from my responsibility, money and obligations. I was too deep into the story I was in believing. One thing I was able to recognize, that if I want a different result, I needed to change the story and I am so uncomfortable because for the first time I could not do it alone.

I did the best thing ever.

I hired a mentor to help me sort through the story I was living into, to recognize whose belief system I am attending to, and who I really am. Only to recognize that the ladder of my success is leaning against the wrong building.

Courage always was my positive trait, and here I relied on it as well.

When I discovered the methodology I work with now, I began to recognize that the unique beauty of me is in allowing myself to be me. At first I did not know how to do that. And believe me, this has no comparison to allowing yourself a day of luxurious spa for recovering your beauty!

Beginning to live form a different starting position being myself and doing it more and more, I no longer think in terms ” Am I good enough?”

Now I think “Ahhh, another day of being myself!” Being grateful and satisfied in my life became integral points of my life journey experience.

As I began to live my life from within, following my bliss, it opened a whole new opportunity of experiencing my life for me. I began to feel and understand sensations in my body, and as my body began to sing, another door opened for me. My fat was history after that as I literally shed off the weight. The universe conspired to put me in circumstance where I found love. I began to feel alive.

Finding balance was not easy but it is literally simple. I began each day with finding the space of this internal starting position from which no further motivation was needed. Doing this work for myself allowed me soon to begin to share this work with others. Now it has been over a decade of living my bliss.

Living from within, I attracted more and more people who want me to share with them what I know. It became apparent to me that I could not withhold what I know because it would be unfair and selfish. I began to teach and mentor those who want more success in more areas in their life and they pay me handsomely, which made my present profession and a comfortable living.

My finding balance through living from within changed my life. Knowing balance as esthetically pleasing integration of elements in life, allows the ability to keep physical equilibrium, mental and emotional stability and most importantly, leads to esthetic appreciation in being and therefore creates beauty of being, ability to retain balance at all times with poise and integrity to yourself and others. Ultimately, finding balance in life creates beauty, a space for living the life from a position of balance, making better decisions, becoming clear on your own purpose, intent and supports an ability to communicate clearly with yourself and others, which in turn creates magic in life when things begin to happen, seemingly all by themselves, as if in the flow of malleable reality, creating the beauty of being what you want.

What do you want?

By Morrin Bass, Ph.D., MBA, Founder
New York Awareness Center
“The unpardonable sin is a sin of not being aware.” Joseph Campbell

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